12 Days of Christmas Preparation - Day 11

So far on this almost completed 12 day journey of Christmas preparation tips I have focused on preparing the kids on the spectrum.

May I suggest another group to be prepared?

Extended family and friends....yep, those folks who may think if you spank your child the autism will go away. Thankfully we never ran into that problem and have over the top supportive parents, family and friends.

However, not everyone is as informed or knowledgeable as you are about your child and what they need, so in order to be fair to all involved....don't expect them to act differently if they don't know what to do (family and friends that is ;)

You might have to send an email or have a casual conversation ahead of a visit. Share with them that some sounds might upset your child. Maybe they don't like to be hugged or kissed. Is there a quiet room they can go into if they need a break? Your child may need some different food than everyone else and you will be happy to bring it along. Are there animals in the house? Will they be put up or at a kennel? Explain that although it is fun for everyone to be together, sometimes your child will need to be alone to play a video game or read a book, etc.

Our kids really enjoy repetitive tasks like stringing popcorn or beads....if the weather is accommodating, maybe a short walk or swing set visit would be a good break.

And most of all try to keep yourself calm....your child will pick up on your tense emotions. Try and keep the visit short and remember it is only a few hours and will be over soon enough.

Remember, the only thing normal in this house is the setting on the dryer! :)

What has worked well for you and your family?